I believe women have come a LONG way, at least in the United States. I still believe women are being abused by society today. So let’s talk about sheer clothes, insecurities, parenting, and hypocritical Christians. Then let me know your thoughts.
Nothing gets me more fired up than hearing a man or woman call a woman a b**** word. The upcoming generation thinks it’s a pet name. I think it’s highly disrespectful, but you may disagree. To me doing things like this sets us back years of everything we’ve fought for with women’s rights.
It also hurts my heart to see women trying to get attention to how they dress. Pop culture tries to make us believe that the more you show, the more attractive you are.
Sheer clothes go away!
Celebrities have even gone so far as to wear see-through sheer dresses to special events. All women are doing when they do this are believing a lie. You don’t have to show more skin to be accepted. I don’t follow other girls or celebrities who post pictures to get attention showing off their bodies. No thanks, don’t want to see that!
Women are more than their sexual appeal and appearance yet society would beg to differ. Showing your body off isn’t confidence in my opinion. What you’re really doing is showing your insecurity and need to be accepted in the world today.
Showing your body off isn't confidence. What you're really doing is showing your insecurity and need to be accepted in the world today. Don't fool yourself into thinking otherwise.Click To TweetI love wearing cute outfits just as much as the next girl. That doesn’t mean I’m going to buy booty shorts just because it’s all they have in store. Half of me would hang out and that’s definitely not something I want to do. I’ll keep looking until I find clothes that are still cute but don’t reveal everything. No this doesn’t make me a prude, I just have self-respect.
Insecurity is not my friend!
I used to be the girl trying to get the attention of how I dressed. Insecurity was my driving force and I wanted to be accepted by other people my age. The only attention I got was from filthy men and disapproving looks from other women. Back then I thought, ‘Girls are throwing shade at me because they’re jealous’. No, it was because I was obviously wanting attention and I looked trashy. So that was my experience. If insecurity is something you struggle with as I did, check out How to Love the Skin You’re In.
Why do parents…?
Why do parents let their kids wear anything just because it’s popular? Why is it okay? Why do so many parents cave so easily to their kids and let them listen, watch, wear, and go places they have no business being. No, I’m not a parent yet but I would want to protect my children (within reason) from the harsh realities of an oversexualized world.
Music is another avenue that degrades women. I used to be deep into listening to some ghetto music. Some of it was highly disrespectful about using and abusing women but making it sound cool in a song. We have to be careful about what we listen to and let our kids listen to. If you want your boys to respect women, don’t let them listen to this kind of crap. It’ll just confuse them and glorify the opposite of what you’re teaching them.
Women’s equal rights have pushed for women’s equality and that’s great. But, the shift has swung almost too far in some situations (see my last post). But, we can’t have equal rights when we’re okay with letting others get away with viewing women as mere sexual objects.
Hypocritical Christians.
You’d be shocked at the people who claim to be Christian, yet visit places like Hooters or strip clubs. We can’t be in support of these things and still respect women. Women are highly oversexualized in advertisements, movies, restaurants, etc. all to make a buck. That’s not why women were created.
Of course, I’m not going to go wag my finger at people living those lives but I certainly won’t support it by visiting those places either. At the same time, those people were still created and loved by God. We still need to show love to everyone regardless of what they’re into. Show love, not condemnation.
We look at others outward appearance, but God looks at their heart (1 Samuel 16:7). He sees what we cannot see. He can see their motivations and intentions for why they live the way they do. He can see yours as well. Remember that everyone has a story and is going through something too.
I hope you’ll join me in striving to have self-respect and be respectful to all people. And let’s not forget to teach our kids to value themselves and other people.
Reflect with me.
Take a moment with me to reflect on ways you’ve let insecurities drive you. Have they caused you to say or do things you wouldn’t normally do to be accepted? I’m certainly not perfect and still feel insecure from time to time. Don’t let those insecurities drive. You are fully loved, cherished, and accepted by God. Always remember that.
Are you okay with how women are portrayed in society today?
Stay hopeful!
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I’ve never liked the bare look except at the beach, and even there I prefer a one-piece swimsuit. I always have, even when I was younger and thinner. I live in a coastal town, so I’m used to seeing women running around in skimpy clothes, even in restaurants and offices, and men looking sloppy in shorts and flip flops. It’s just the way it is, but I do my own thing. The Instagram type celebs are just ridiculous and I pay no attention to them, or try not to. They’re all about marketing a product and don’t care how they affect young people. It’s all about money to them—even a baby is a product to display.
Right. That’s awesome you live in a coastal town by the way! I think a lot of it depends on what’s in the person’s heart when they’re like that. Not everyone has bad intentions. I agree some celebrities (or wannabe celebrities) are just out to make money at whatever cost.
Agreed. I missed it if you mentioned anything about cleveage, but that’s one thing I don’t understand. If you want to be treated like a lady, why wear clothes that reveal it all? It’s not right that men treat women as sex objects, but if women dress like sex objects, they send the wrong message. I agree that we have to set an example. It’s absolutely I security. When I was a teen I dress in clothing that was too tight and short. Then I started getting the wrong kind of attention and it freaked me out. How a person dresses makes a big difference.
Yeah I agree. Cleavage is apart of the showing off everything in my mind. I see so much of that it’s ridiculous. And I’ve also seen the no bra thing. Saw a middle aged woman at the grocery store who was cold. Also saw a young girl with some guys in a tight tank top wearing no bra. It’s so true that girls and women wearing revealing clothes are sending the wrong message. They don’t understand how a guys mind works or how it will attract attention. As I’ve gotten older I’ve been convicted by this verse in Romans 14:13 that applies not only to this topic, but so many things. Don’t judge and don’t be a stumbling block to other people. Also 1 Corinthians 10:23 talks about how everything is permissible but not everything is beneficial to us or to others. So just because I can dress, act, say, or _______, doesn’t mean it will benefit others. It could actually be a hindrance to others that see me doing ______. When you’re younger, you don’t typically think much about people others, at least that’s how I was. I’m still not perfect but I try to be more aware of others- their struggles, weaknesses, etc. With that said I’m still not going to wear a nun outfit lol. I’ll wear clothes that are cute but don’t show or hint at my privates just because I can. When you aren’t leaving much to the imagination but showing off every curve or part of your privates, that’s too far to me.
Romans 14:13, I wish more Christians pay attention to that scripture. Yes, we don’t live for people but we shouldn’t let our choices hurt others.
Amen!